I was walking Audrey into Preschool the other day over hearing a conversation a women was having on her cell phone. She was obviously talking to one of her girl friend's about her husband complaining about their marriage and how he wants sex all the time, but she just doesn't want to give it to him... her own words "he's being so selfish". She said she wanted to work on their marriage their "actual relationship" not their "sex life". I wanted to stop her and tell her she shake her really...your "sex life" has everything to do with your "actual relationship"! She doesn't understand to him, a man sex is the number one need, he needs from his wife. Not just the "release" which is true he does really need this, but the acceptance, and the assurance he feels from his wife. Men need to feel like they are wanted, they need to have their egos stroked, feel desirable and make them feel like they are your hero! When you deny sex from your husband he feels like you don't love him. If having sex with your husband, making him feel loved and wanted makes your marriage better...then to me why not do it? So he wants it once a day. It just once a day, and lets be real it's not like it lasts very long...what you can't give him 15 minutes of your time?? And really more like 3 times a week will do. lol
This woman was sitting there saying... me me me... I want this and that from him, but I'm not willing to give him what he wants???! This doesn't make any sense to me! You give him what he wants and he will in turn give you what you want. Men are simple, way more simple than we are. You give a man a good meal and some lovin and he's happy as can be. When he's happy, he will make you happy too. It's a two way street! Come on ladies stop making excuses like "I'm too tired." or "I'm just not in the mood." If you have an open mind, come on you know you'll get in the "mood" eventually. He really physically, and emotionally needs this from you. You can do it! You will be surprised how much better your "actual relationship" will be... seriously!
Ok I'm done. :D
Oh Wait no I"m not haha....I recommend reading the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands it really is a great book!
