Just Hear Me Out..... . +

I was walking Audrey into Preschool the other day over hearing a conversation a women was having on her cell phone.  She was obviously talking to one of her girl friend's about her husband complaining about their marriage and how he wants sex all the time, but she just doesn't want to give it to him... her own words "he's being so selfish".  She said she wanted to work on their marriage their "actual relationship" not their "sex life".  I wanted to stop her and tell her she shake her really...your "sex life" has everything to do with your "actual relationship"!  She doesn't understand to him, a man sex is the number one need, he needs from his wife.  Not just the "release" which is true he does really need this,  but the acceptance, and the assurance he feels from his wife.  Men need to feel like they are wanted,  they need to have their egos stroked, feel desirable and make them feel like they are your hero!  When you deny sex  from your husband he feels like you don't love him.  If having sex with your husband,  making him feel loved and wanted makes your marriage better...then to me why not do it?  So he wants it once a day.  It just once a day, and lets be real it's not like it lasts very long...what you can't give him 15 minutes of your time??  And really more like 3 times a week will do. lol

This woman was sitting there saying... me me me... I want this and that from him, but I'm not willing to give him what he wants???! This doesn't make any sense to me! You give him what he wants and he will in turn give you what you want.  Men are simple, way more simple than we are.  You give a man a good meal and some lovin and he's happy as can be.  When he's happy,  he will make you happy too.  It's a two way street!  Come on ladies stop making excuses like "I'm too tired." or "I'm just not in the mood."  If you have an open mind, come on you know you'll get in the "mood"  eventually.  He really physically, and emotionally needs this from you.  You can do it! You will be surprised how much better your "actual relationship" will be... seriously!
Ok I'm done. :D
    Oh Wait no I"m not haha....I recommend reading the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands it really is a great book!

The Young Victoria

If you haven't seen the movie The Young Victoria I so recommend you do!  It's a beautiful story!  I just thought I'd put that out there. :)

Cool Beans Cool Beans....

I have eaten beans and rice since I was a kid.  It was a staple in our weekly meals all growing up.  Pot of beans, rice and corn bread....it's still actually one of my favorite dinners.  So you ask how do you make a good pot of beans?  Well start off with pinto of black beans, you can also do a mixture between the two.  Rinse them.  You can let them soak over night, I don't even do this because I forget to or I'm a plan the dinner a few hours before you cook dinner time type of planner. haha  So I just rinse the beans put them in my large pot.

1 package of beans
7-8 cups of water  (may need to add more like an hour or so later)
1 onion
2 cloves of garlic
1/2-1 tsp Chili powder
1/2-1 tsp cumin
and my secret ingredient ....
4-6 tsp of Chicken bouillon
salt and pepper to taste

Add the ingredients stir and let it come to a boil then simmer for 2-3 hours.

The  bouillon really makes beans soooo much better!  I love my beans but I love beans.  I also use my food processor to make them into refried beans or make burritos or black bean tacos, or black bean enchiladas.  I have been very poor at times so I had to learn to use bean in different ways. lol  Luckily I'm not that poor anymore but I still do cook beans at least once a week....got a love them! :)

Jamie Oliver!

I heart Jamie Oliver.  I love what he stands for and what he is trying to do with his food revolution movement!   My husband decided to buy me his Food Revolution cookbook for Mother's Day.  I have love, love ,loved using it!  I have tried many of the recipes and I absolutely love them!  The flavors are divine and I so so so recommend this cookbook!  If you like curry he has some amazing curry recipes!  The recipes are easy and most of them take about an hour to cook.  But you are cooking from fresh ingredients so his recipes are generally healthy, but soooo yummy!  I'm telling you this cookbook is worth the buy! :)

Music

I love music.  I think if I had to between being deaf or blind, I would choose to be blind.  The thought of not being able to hear my babies laugh, or hear their babble and first words is very terrible!  I think sounds are the most moving things to me.  I love listening to people read books, or one of my favorites is listening to the rain!  I think I could go without seeing as long as I could hear the life going on around me.

When someones situation in their personal life moves me I sit down to my piano and write music.  It's so therapeutic for me.. me and my piano have a relationship don't judge! lol   Sometimes I can sit down to play and this music comes from my hands that I never knew I could create.  I really give the credit to God because I know he is the one that gives me the music for me to play.  I wrote a couple of songs for my sister a few months back for a wedding present to her.  I'm working on another one for my sister Ashley who is getting married in a couple of months.  I still can't believe I wrote those songs, I think they are beautiful!  But they are my songs and I'm connected to them.  I love getting inspiration it is one of the most amazing things I have ever felt.  Connecting to someone or something and showing it through song.  It makes me happy.  I'm always nervous to play the music for the person I'm writing it for because what if they don't like it!  I don't think they would tell me if they didn't ;)  When I miss that certain person I play their song and it comforts me. Even though they are so faraway from me I feel them with me through the music.  I think one day I will write enough songs for a CD, maybe one day I'll even give concert....maybe :) 

 I love it when I hear a song and it speaks to my soul.  Like this song Gravity by Sara Bareilles this song speaks to me.    

Really music part of my daily life, if I'm not listening to music I'm singing to my kids or playing my piano.  I hope that never changes!  YAY for music! lol